Friendship

POSITIVE FRIENDSHIP

NEGATIVE FRIENDSHIP

Are you willing to go out on a limb for the people your calling your Friends.

you like (or love) each other

Jealousy is rampant

you have fun together

Competiveness is excessive

you share confidences, activities, talking and/or emotional support

Secrets are shared outside the friendship without permission

Trust, honesty and loyalty are expected

Borrowed items are not returned

There is little or no jealousy

Promises are broken

Competiveness is minimal and healthy

Poor excuses are offered for failing to get together

Contact is as frequent as both need or want

One or both friends brag to each other people about the friendship for opportunistic reasons

Confidences are kept

The friendship is rigid and inflexible with attempts to maintain the status quo despite predictable and normal shifts or changes that make demands on each friend

Gossip is non-existent or rare

The friendship is low priority

Friends are not used or put in compromising positions

Conversations are strained and or unpleasant

Promises are kept

Even if you once had fun with your friend, it’s now a relationship of duty rather than enjoyment

Borrowed items are returned

The sharing activities, emotional support or confidences is rare or one-sided

Tact is practised

The relationship is unequal

Honesty is essential, but not misused for hurtful reasons

Betrayal has occurred that is severe and unjustified

The friendship is flexible, changing as situations or needs shift for one or both friends because of school, career or personal reasons

Conflict is frequent and efforts to resolve fail

No matter how busy each friend is, the friendship is still a priority.

You don’t like the way this friend makes you feel about yourself

Each friend is there for each other, in fair or foul weather

You have a lot in common, but enough that is different to make the relationship interesting

The relationship is equal